Transforming your life from the inside out can be scary, confronting and mind blowing all at the same time! Sometimes you have to dig really deep to find out what it is that is holding you back. Is it our parents, our spouse, our circle of friends or is it our own limiting beliefs?
These limiting beliefs come up a lot on social media with people’s tendency to complain – I see it in the memories that pop up every so often – my own complaints too – reminding me of where I have come from – but more importantly, where I am going.
When I first started my business, I jumped straight into our personal development programme. I knew it would help me to move away from the life I had been living and would help me move in the direction of what I really wanted. It helped me change my thinking and I learned how to take a look at my life through the lens of – “I CAN” – rather than, “I can’t because … (insert problem, circumstance or excuse here)”. I learned to ask the question, HOW CAN I? And more importantly I learned to find out for myself and develop and rely on my intuition rather than ask advice from well-meaning friends and family, who have their own lens they’re looking through in their lives.
What I’ve realised now though being a student of personal development, is that every thought or sentence that I write or speak, that is not in line with my goals, takes me further away from achieving them. And that every thought or sentence that I write or speak that IS in alignment with my goals, is helping to bring me closer to achieving them. If I complain about my circumstances, whether internally or out loud, rather than taking responsibility for them, then I will not change anything for the positive in the long term. If I focus on solutions rather than problems, then I am going in the right direction.
I have finally changed from being the victim and blame mentality to taking personal responsibility for my life. I stopped allowing my circumstances to dictate my behaviour – I learned how to make distinctions in my thinking and to compartmentalise the negative and the doubting thoughts and replace those with best case scenario thinking, rather than the default thinking that the majority of us have been trained to do our whole lives – worst case scenario! And I learned how to base my decision making on moving forward and taking action, rather than deciding to use my time contemplating or going back and forth about things and ultimately doing nothing. Procrastination used to be my best friend, but not anymore. Any step no matter how small in the right direction is progress.
I am happier than I have ever been and so grateful to be on this positive path – knowing for myself and being responsible for my life in a way I just wasn’t before. It’s changed everything for me – I’ve chosen a different life, a different destination and more importantly I am definitely a different person. I’ve chosen to break the glass ceiling for myself and I’ve chosen to set high standards and boundaries to work on all relationships in my life; with my husband so I can make our marriage an amazing one, with my kids so I can build a solid relationship with them and with my friends, deciding who I spend time with to minimise the negativity around me. I’m setting healthy boundaries. I’ve chosen to BE HAPPY, as much as I can. I’ve chose to be ON PURPOSE in all aspects of my life.
Have a wonderful day, beautiful people and concentrate your efforts on what you CAN DO – You are what you believe yourself to be, just believe you can and you’re half way there!
I believe in you!
Angela Harris 